So my last post was more on the contemplative side with pessimistic undertones and pseudo poeticism so today I wanted to write something fun. That something fun comes in the form of hating on stuff, especially if it’s mainstream content.
This is going to be the first in a (hopefully) on going succession of short posts based on when and where I stumble upon something that pisses me off. I have too much to write on each category of quotes I disagree with to make a full list in one post.
It’s quite a popular practise to post and share quotes, caption them under instagram photos and be generally avid followers of “word porn”. Holding on to quotes isn’t anything particularly new but with the internet phenomenon, it has become increasingly more apparent which quotes are most popular and which writers and celebrities are the most admired- to the point where people are routinely misquoted and credited with philosophies that they never actually said. Admiring wise words is definitely not a bad thing. The previous alternative of having them hover over posters of sunsets that hang on your bedroom wall is a lot less ridiculous than them hovering over images of sunsets on your facebook wall. Again, I have a whole pinterest board dedicated to quotes I like, so my real objective here is to dissect the ones I either don’t agree with or don’t really understand.
I wish I had this idea before because now that I’ve made the effort to actively look for the bad quotes, I can’t find them. Browsing through all the emo quotes I used to save when I was in high school was a good start though.
I also think that I’m being a rebel because instead of posting and writing about all the deep quotes that mean a lot to me like most people do, I’m going to do the opposite and tear apart the ones I don’t like.
Okay so my first victim is any quote having to do with “being normal” or being “different” or that “normal is boring”.
This one is a favourite of mine, partly because the bratty, emo teenager in me used to believe it. I cringe every time this one pops up mostly because no one really deserves to be brushed aside into some warped, stereotypical picture that was positioned together by someone who doesn’t have all the pieces to complete the puzzle. There’s probably somebody out there who considers me to be one of those “all the same” people when every fibre in my body is adamant that I’m anything but. I’m sure that everyone has been dismissed by someone based on a superficial image or facet of themselves that they present to those who were unable to gain a more intimate knowledge of who they are. Unfortunately life doesn’t allow you to really get to know everyone you meet, therefore we have to box people up into who we think they are rather than base our opinions on who they actually are. I get it, we all want to be remarkable. I get how being unique and not following the crowd and all that is not only important to want but also important to advocate in order to encourage people to be themselves, even in the face of judgement, ridicule or the most terrifying: rejection. I also understand that people do get bullied and on a larger scale, get discriminated against due to being different or “other”. However, this quote is more on the agressive side and uses a mocking attitude to create further divide. It’s easy to preach peace, love and acceptance and much harder to implement but my stance is that as people mature and we make an effort to open our minds, we are able to recognise the similarities that transcend all the things that can make you feel or look like an outsider.
I would also like to stress that normalcy doesn’t exist. It never really has. Even if you’re a seemingly average person, with an average day job, living in your average house in your unremarkable suburb with your ideal nuclear family and white, picket fence and maybe I could pass you on the street and not really remember your face, YOU ARE NOT NORMAL. Just because I or maybe some acquaintance of yours has decided you’re just some sheep or cog in the machine or whatever metaphor they want to compartmentalise you in, does not actually mean that you don’t have anything special or unique about you. By virtue of the fact that you are your own person with your own take on the world, your own opinions, ambitions and dreams makes you inherently unique and different from the people around you. Even if you are the product of the culture and environment you grew up in, you will still have your own beliefs and your own reasons why the particular values you grew up with have stuck with you. Maybe those values will change and expand but you still have your very own unique subjectivity that nobody on earth can fully have access to or fully understand. You have your own experiences. Nobody on this planet has the ability or opportunity to experience everything that you have, in the way that you have. While there are people who tend to “conform” more than others, internally everyone still has their own voices and that is why you and nobody else can ever be normal. My alternative is that perfect is boring. Trying to be perfect or even wanting to be perfect is trying to extinguish all the messy but far more interesting parts of yourself. Collective recognition of our faults is what makes us relate to each other.